Cynical Southerner: Take Back the Night
Rape is a hate-crime. Sexual assault is an act of violence – not an expression of sexual desire. It is a brutal assertion of control that can happen in any relationship, to anyone, regardless of gender.
Sexual violence is an epidemic. Yet the institutions of our society insist on treating this violence as a series of unrelated, isolated incidents. This mentality dictates that we keep off the streets, that when we are harassed we should take it as a compliment, that when we are raped we should get over it. Most security advice offered to survivors is based on a “blame the victim mentality”. Too often, the survivor is interrogated instead of the perpetrator.
They tell us it happened because we were on the street, or at home; because we were in the office, or in the classroom; because we were out at night, or during the day; because we were off campus, or our clothes were too tight; because we are queer, or we have the wrong kind of sex; because we are the wrong color, or the wrong class; because we are transgendered; because we are the wrong religion; because we drank too much, or were out studying too late; because boys will be boys; because we were not in our bedrooms, but in the wrong neighborhood. They tell us it didn’t really happen because we were dating the person; because women cannot rape, because men cannot be assaulted.
There is no end to the list of excuses. Tonight we remind ourselves that there are no excuses. Excuses serve only to perpetuate the violence. They silence us by convincing us that we are alone, and by ignoring the fact that the violence we face is often interconnected – sexual violence is often motivated by the same hatred that fuels racism, classism, ableism, homophobia, and religious bias. Excuses silence men who have been sexually assaulted along with survivors assaulted by women. They deny our power of survival. These excuses focus solely on our fears. These fears confine us and make us limit our own activities instead of demanding an end to sexual violence.
The excuses end here. Tonight is a night of survival in the most active sense of the word. Tonight is a night of empowerment. We march together demonstrating the strength in our numbers. Sexual assault is disproportionately committed against women; it is often gender-based. Tonight we reclaim the streets as our own safe space. We march because everyone has the right to walk at night without fear. We shout to combat the silence that is forced upon us.
Tonight is also a night of unity. We march as a community to demonstrate our solidarity against the violence that affects all of us, as survivors, and as co-survivors who share the pain of our partners, our friends, our families and our community members. We march because we recognize that only together can we break the cycle of violence. With rage we march and with strength we speak.
Take back the day. Take back the night. Take back our bodies. Take up the fight. — Take Back the Night Mission Statement
What if this had been reverse? What if the girl dumped him and then he smashed all of her CDS or her cellphone and laptop? How would society react? By calling him abusive and controlling.
See, female on male abuse is seen as funny or comical. you see those commercials with the wife throwing the boyfriends stuff out the window. IF the genders were reversed, everyone would see it and call it out for what it really is…abuse.
Abuse is not funny in any way shape or form.
This is why we don’t need feminism.
This mother fucker also owes him a fuckton of money.
thats more than 600$ worth of games!
that’s a fucking felony, theft and destruction of property. call the law on the psycho bitch!
"This is why we don’t need feminism."
Actually, it’s why we DO need feminism. Because feminism isn’t about making women superior and putting men on the bottom. Feminism IS about making everyone equal. The “comedy” behind male abuse is a result of the patriarchy, which is exactly what feminism is trying to destroy. The patriarchy mocks weakness in men, so when men get abused, it’s not taken seriously. It’s a joke, it’s funny, it’s no big deal. “You’re a man, suck it up.”
That’s not what feminists want. If you think that’s what we want, then you you’re not talking to the right feminists. It’s about equality, NOT just reversing the roles, understand?
It’s not okay to abuse women, it’s not okay to abuse men, it’s not okay to abuse ANYONE. That’s the fucking point. The point isn’t “whaa it’s time for women to get to be mean you need to lean your place”. The point is gender inequality is stupid and unhelpful to everyone.
So if you don’t like the way men are treated, don’t hate on feminists. Join them. We don’t like it either.
It’s not okay to abuse women, it’s not okay to abuse men, it’s not okay to abuse ANYONE.
I will never not miss this show on CN. Star was always my fave <3
NOTHING BETTER THAN SHOWERING AND PUTTING ON A BIG TSHIRT AND GETTING INTO BED WITH CLEAN SHEETS LITERALLY NOTHING DON’T FIGHT ME ON THIS
*IF YOU DO ALL THAT IMMEDIATELY AFTER SHAVING YOUR LEGS
(Source: amlour, via racheltensions)
will u still snapchat me when i am no longer young and beautiful
"THIS PICTURE WILL NOT CHANGE THE WORLD, BUT I STILL NEED FEMINISM AND I’M GOING TO REALLY, REALLY TELL YOU WHY":
-Because I got called a whore for wearing a short plaid skirt when I was 10
-and because when Nujood Ali from Yemen was 10 she got divorced
-Because black girls’ names became my classmates’ favorite “joke” when I was 11
-and because when an 11-year-old girl in Texas was raped by 18 men the New York Times wrote of how the girl “dressed older than her age”
-Because I started counting calories when I was 14
-and because when Malala Yousafzai was 14 she was shot in the head for trying to go to school
-Because I heard a boy greet a girl with “hey slut” today at age 16
-and because when a 16-year-old girl in Steubenville, Ohio was filmed being raped by two boys at a party while unconscious the CNN reporters talked about how tragic it was because the rapists had such bright futures as athletes
-Because I will have to watch my drink at all bars and parties when I am 22
-and because when CeCe McDonald was 22 she was sentenced to 41 months in prison for defending herself against a man who screamed transphobic, racist insults at her and then slashed her face with a bottle
-Because no matter what age I am the biggest threat to men will still be heart disease, and the biggest threat to women will still be men.
-Because it is not just about me, because it is not just about anger, because it is not just a JOKE, because it is not just about “hating men,” because it is not just about girls with vaginas, because it is not just about ending “slut”, because it is not just about white straight girls in Rookie magazine, because it is not just about writing on backs, because it is not just about the fact that gay men are “fags” but lesbians are “hot,” because it is not just about pictures of thin white girls being the only google image results for the search phrase “beautiful women”, because it is not just about writing signs, because it is not just about what she was wearing or how many times she said yes before she changed her answer to no, because misogyny is not just about one thing and feminism is not just about one thing and it is not just “a trend” and it will not “happen” in just one way.
-And because yes. It is about equality for EVERYONE, but first and foremost it needs to be about equality for girls, because they are not treated equally to men, in every single sense, and you are not going to take feminism away from me and call me bossy/hostile/aggressive and make this about yourself or make it into a joke, because truth be told, I’m not joking and I’m tired of explaining. If you want to call yourself a feminist, you work hard to spread feminism, you do not turn this into a contest of whose struggle is greater and constantly demand to know what you can get out of feminism personally. Feminism is not just about you, or me, it is about everyone. If you’re male and you’re tired of men being stereotyped as hyper-masculine, soulless, sexist, inherent leader-tyrant creatures, then go out and prove the patriarchy wrong and fight for girls, like someone with a soul who believes in equality would. Then, yes, feminism will be about everyone.
-Sylvie (an amazing grrrl godess)
Photo taken by Caroline http://c-h-0-w.tumblr.com/
i usually don’t reblog these things but this said everything perfectly, holy hell
Today in writing we workshopped titles for our essays and it was just almost too many puns to survive.
The printer is both refusing to print my paper and intimidating me…